Building habits one step at a time

June 30, 2021

I'm an improver. A perfectionist. A person who loves to optimize everything I do in my life.

I love building new habits, automatizing things, organizing stuff. It's the way I am.

But this comes with a problem: Most times, I set myself up for too many things at once.

My head is full of things I want to do, ways I could improve, possibilities I could make use of.

As a perfectionist, I always like to do all of it.

But the truth is, I can't.

It's not possible to do so many things at the same time and still do them in a good way.

Oftentimes it feels like a burden, but on the other hand, it opens up so many opportunities on how I can live my life in the best way for me.

All I need to do is approach the ideas in my head in the right way.

A while ago I wrote a blog post about how I took it too far with building habits, how I overcomplicated my life instead of making it easier.

Some time has passed since then and I evolved further, but there's still that urge inside me to optimize my life all at once.

I have to remind myself to take it slow every day.

That is something I realized recently:

We succeed by taking it one step at a time. Setting focus.

Sometimes I forget that it takes time to build habits. That having a sustainable habit isn't something that happens overnight, or over the course of a few days.

In order to manifest itself in our minds, it takes a number of repetitions.

But not only that - it takes focus.

This is why I approach habits in a new way now.

From now on, I will focus on building one new habit each month.

Just one habit.

This way I can make sure that I don't feel overwhelmed by remembering and perfecting many things.

This way I can improve a part of my life in a way that actually makes it better.

I made a list of all the things I want to become habits of mine. A list I can work on month by month, step by step.

Taking it slow. Not rushing it.

Good things take time, and that's something I have to learn still.

Although I'd like to perfect things in an instant, slow steps are the key to success. To a healthy success.

Because in the end habits are about simplifying your life, not making it harder.

ジャーニー (Jānī) is Japanese for journey.

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